Frequent Causes of Divorce
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Divorce is no longer as uncommon today as it was some decades earlier. The years after the Second World War saw a rapid growth in divorce rate in Western countries, fuelled by factors such as liberation and emancipation of women, increased prosperity, liberalisation of divorce laws, rise of individualism and the concept of personal freedom.
The divorce rate has actually become uncomfortably high in many parts of the world and sociologists have begun to wonder about the implications it would have on the society in the next couple of decades.
Divorce is not a happy occasion for anyone as it has terrible consequences for every family member involved. The partners as well as children undergo a lot of stress and anxiety, but in some cases, divorce cannot be avoided. Families may break up due to various reasons, some of which are given below.
Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse involves psychological harassment and domination of the victim. This can be inflicted in various ways such as verbal assaults, taunts, undeserved and constant criticism, denial of finances, unreasonable restriction on one’s movements, slandering the individual in front of others and so on.
Emotional abuse saps the confidence of the victim and turns him or her into a nervous wreck. Emotionally abused people often develop various psychosomatic disorders and deep flaws in their personality. The effects last for a long time and are very difficult to heal.
Physical Abuse
In physical abuse, the victim is beaten with hands as well as some object. Such abuse can be very serious. Many spouses and even children have died after being subjected to severe physical abuse, or suffered bodily damage such as broken bones and black eyes. It also leads to emotional turmoil and lack of self-esteem in the victim. If physical abuse is serious and there is no sign of the aggressor getting reformed, divorce is the correct option in such cases.
Financial Problems
Every family has some basic material needs that have to be fulfilled for the marriage to be successful. The partners have many aspirations from their marital life that they want to see achieved. The problem arises when there is a lack of financial resources in the family.
When the partners are unable to live their lives as they want, there is tension in the relationship. The blame game starts and there are frequent quarrels. Things begin to slide downhill and gradually one of the partners files for divorce so that he or she can remarry and enter into a more financially attractive relationship.
Infidelity
When the spouses get married, they say their sacred vows, one of which is that they will remain loyal and faithful to each other. Marriage is based on the bedrock of trust and intimacy. That is why an extra-marital affair by one of the partners shakes its very foundation. The victimised partner feels cheated, betrayed and out-manoeuvred. Extra-marital affair is a very serious matter and few marriages are able to survive infidelity by a partner.
Lack of Conflict Resolution Skills
There is hardly any family in the world which does not experience at some time or the other a quarrel or disagreement among the partners on an issue. However, successful marital relationships turn out to be those where the partners have learnt the art of managing and resolving conflicts. They know each other’s personality and nature well and do not allow the conflict to cross a certain limit.
On the other hand, there are many partners who aggravate the quarrels and disagreements because of their lack of tact or thoughtlessness. Such marriages are doomed to failure sooner or later. Even if the partners remain together, the family becomes dysfunctional.
Substance Abuse and Health Problems
Many marriages drift toward a break-up when one of the partners gets into alcohol or drug abuse. This is because a marriage is a two-wheeled chariot. If one of the partners is unable to fulfil his or her duties and marital obligations, the relationship becomes useless and dysfunctional for the other partner and children.
The partner who is into abuse is not able to contribute anything toward the family’s finances or provide emotional support. In many cases, the declining health of a partner also pushes the marriage toward divorce.
Infertility
Most the people who get married have one important dream, that of having children and starting a family. They want to experience the joys of parenthood. Thus, the news of their partner’s infertility and inability to have children comes as a shock to them. Their dream is shattered. There are then only two options facing them – either adopt kids or file for divorce and look for other partners who can conceive.
James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you want to find out more about a solicitor managed divorce see http://www.managed-divorce.co.uk
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